Seattle — After 28 years of working with the top three levels in Fortune 100 companies, Dr. Marissa Pei has noticed some common themes with some of the most successful people in the world. She joins us at New Day Northwest to share her research in order to help people thrive in life and in the workplace.
Dr. Pei iterates methods which she calls "BS" belief systems. They can get in the way of your life and make things harder then they need to be.
See if you can identify with any of these:
- I’m not any harder on others than I am on myself.
- I’m harder on myself than anyone else ever is...and it’s never enough!
- This is not rocket science. Why is it so difficult to find people to do their job?
- I wouldn't have these issues if I were allowed to hire my own people!
- You say, perfectionist like it’s a bad thing...
- I wish everyone were like _____ (the one you are accused of favoritism for).
- I only want what’s best for everyone.
- I AM NOT ANGRY!!!!!!
At first glance, Dr. Pei says that these belief systems seem rational and logical, and part of the success formula for the high achiever...but are they? She calls these “BS” Belief Systems that hurt leaders because of their unintended consequences in their relationships at work and at home.
Dr. Pei's three main "BS" belief systems:
- BS #1 A Leader’s Job is to Whip You into Shape
- BS #2 Perfectionism is a Noble Endeavor
- BS #3 I Need Smart people to Execute, I Don’t Have Time for This Touchy-Feel
Dr. Pei has been busy with her new book "8 Ways to Happiness: From Wherever You Are," where she gives exercises to keep a healthy mental state and deal with past trauma. She says this book is meant to help transform the way you think and help you find forgiveness, calm and happiness within your life.
You can buy her book on Amazon, or visit her website at 4balance.org.
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