OAK HARBOR, Wash. -- Theirs was a bond that began before they were born. The love shared by Janesah and Janeah Goheen was evident when they were first separated in the delivery room.
They came in andsaid, 'Mrs. Goheen, we cannot console the girls. Do you have any suggestions?' So,I told them to bring them to me, andI cuddled them together and as soon asI did that they stopped crying, said Debbie Goheen. From that point on, they never wanted to be apart.
Debbie Goheen wiped away tears as she told that story Friday afternoon, as he family preparedfor the memorial service for her two daughters.
There was something very special about the two of them, she said.
It was a love that Debbie and her husband Jim say couldn t be conquerd, evenby death.
The girls set out with a friend on Halloween night to go to a haunted house in Seattle.Police say53-year-oldIraBlackstock was driving recklessly and may have been on drugs when hecrossedthe center line on SR 20, demolishing the girls' car.
Janeah died that night. The twins had said in the past they didn t know if they could live without each other.Ten days later their dad had to make the decision to remove Janesah from life support. He believes a vision from God told him the girls needed to be together.
It s like he said to me, Jim, you have the faith to bring her back, butwould would give me Janessa because they ve never been apart? I told Him yes.
The twins filled the Goheen home with music and their hearts with joy for 17 short years, even in the most of difficult times. Parents offive girls, the couple lost another daughter in a car wreck in 2008. Now, Jim and Debbie say their house is sadly quiet, but joy still sings in their hearts.
Even though our hearts are breaking because they re not here anymore, our hearts are rejoicingthat they re together because our love as a family was for them to be together.
The couplefinds joy in seeing the love shared by their daughters now spreading across the community.They tell of strangers praying for each other's childrenin theHarborview ICU. And they point toacouple reconciling theirmarriagewith the realization that life is too short.
In tragedy there can be life, said Jim. It s all in howwe choose tolook at it.
As they prepare for life without their beloved daughters, the Goheens have one simple message for parents everywhere. They ask that you honor their family by taking a few minutes once a week to honor your own.
Take some time, it doesn't have to be at a big family meal, but take a moment to look them straight in the eye and tell them how much you love them. I love you.Those three words are incredible.
A public memorial service for the Goheen girls will be heldSaturday at 2:00 pm at Oak Harbor High School. A fund to help the Goheens is set up at Whidbey Island Bank branches. Additional information can be found at http://www.youcaring.com/help-a-neighbor/goheen-family-fund/106388