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Tory's journey ends

by ALLEN SCHAUFFLER / KING 5 News

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Posted on March 21, 2010 at 2:10 PM

Updated Sunday, Mar 21 at 5:24 PM

Tory Plaisance died Saturday night. We knew it was coming. In fact it's really the only reason we ever got to know Tory. But it was still a shock.

For the last 10 months a KING 5 News team has followed his efforts to use the new "Death With Dignity" law. He wanted us to tell his story, to show viewers that the new law had a place in Washington and that it had real value for people like him. We agreed to track his progress toward death, knowing that we could not predict how or when the "story" would end. He wanted to support the law, we wanted to step back and show the progress, learn from it and hopefully allow viewers to learn from it as well. 

Tory had lived with AIDS since he was in his early 20s and for the last few years cancer had ravaged his colon, liver, pelvic wall and lungs. He wanted to die, or at least wanted the option of dying at his own pace and at a time of his choosing. It just didn't turn out that way. The law is hard to use, there are fairly complicated requirements built in so that it's not an easy thing to do. Tory got started late, never figured out the process, and never found the doctors who would both diagnose him as dying and prescribe lethal medicine for him.

We were part of the problem. The medical institution where he was receiving treatment refused to discuss his case with us, refused to prescribe for him and in the end told him to look elsewhere for help. And they told him very clearly that they did that because of his decision to go public with his journey, to allow us to tell his story in a series of news reports and online offerings.

Tory died at home, tended by a longtime friend and with his mother at his bedside. Paul, who helped him through his last difficult weeks, tells us Tory wasn't very comfortable when he passed and was still angry that he hadn't been able to make use of the new law which he wholeheartedly supported. He did finally find a sympathetic doctor and had started the process over again, but it all happened too late.

He had a tremendous, sly, occasionally dark sense of humor and would have appreciated the fact that in the end he died before he had time to kill himself.
 

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musicfreak said on March 22, 2010 at 10:33 AM

First, it doesn't matter how he contracted HIV. The fact of the matter is he did contract it, and he was terminal from the moment he received the diagnosis. Second, to carlconstantine, it doesn't matter because even in death, he can choose to accept the doctrine that will allow him to reside with his Heavenly Father. Whatever your beliefs on this article, a brave man has passed away and left those he loves behind. All I can say to his loved ones is he's in a better place and he wouldn't want you to grieve for him for too long.

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mvnative said on March 22, 2010 at 8:31 AM

arebz....seriously? Does it really matter?! RIP Tory, you will be missed.

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pinkygal said on March 22, 2010 at 7:12 AM

Rest in peace Tory, To Tory's friend who so unselfishly took care of him in his last days, there is a special place in heaven for people like you. You are truly one of a kind. To his mom, ignore the haters, Tory was your son therefore you have unconditional love for him as should be and the stupid opinions of some haters do not matter at a time like this. Tory is finally at peace, He is a brave man who shared his journey for others to experience and learn from, he did not push any agenda on us, just wanted us to see his side of the experience, nothing wrong with that. I am so sorry his final days were not comfortable, that breaks my heart, he deserved better from the medical community, publicity or not, nobody should live or die with uncontrolled pain, shame on you doctors!!!!! May God Bless Tory and all who love him and may his journey be a lesson to all of us. Fly free Tory, free of pain and judgement, and may your spirit rest peacefully.

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seaweed76 said on March 22, 2010 at 12:31 AM

The Death with Dignity law should be revised so that it is not such a long, complicated process. Those who are as ill as Tory was should have the medication they need readily available from doctors hospitals, and pharmacists. A person should not have to be diagnosed as having six months or less to live before having the chance to obtain the necessary drugs. Many people have extremely debilitating diseases or conditions that may last for years, make life unbearable for them, and should not be forced to go through that suffering year after year. Others are prevented from using the law because it is impossible physically for them to take the medication themselves. There are others in a vegetative state who do not want to survive in that condition but whose living wills are not honored by their families or their doctors. Life is precious, but for many there can come a time when it is no longer worth living, and life should not be forced upon them.

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patricia1979 said on March 21, 2010 at 11:04 PM

I had an Aunt who died of liver cancer and she was on pain killer.I know what is like to have a dear family pass away.I hope he is with our heavenly father.R.I.P Tory..

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noroom4apathy said on March 21, 2010 at 11:02 PM

Tory had a right to be angry! There were many of us who voted for "death with dignity" and it's so sad to see that it's being treated like another unenforced law. Who needs another one of these atrocities in our state? I cannot understand why Seattle Cancer Care Alliance (its name, another conflict in terms) refused to help Tory because he went public. It sounds like darn if you do and darn if you don't. I'm assuming he had no other choice but to publicize this with his excruciating pain. The only really deep dark side to Tory's article is Seattle Cancer Care Alliance's missing heart. Can we not trust anything any more? I know that help for AIDS patients is coming to an abrupt halt and nothing makes sense any more. RIP, Tory. Not to worry, we won't forget how you were treated and that our votes mean nothing in this state. It's very sad and frustrating.

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noroom4apathy said on March 21, 2010 at 10:51 PM

TO: "javajoe said on March 21, 2010 at 3:40 PM Anyone can give-up. There's no dignity in that. 39704226 Flag this commentcommentist said on March 21, 2010 at 3:47 PM King5 Pushing thr BLEEDING HEART AGENDA ha ha ha ha ha ha Entertainment! The NEW news!" -- KARMA will work its power. Please show some sensitivity for humankind and remove your comments. Should be removed anyway as abusive.

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cupcakes00 said on March 21, 2010 at 10:47 PM

I am happy Tori is no longer in pain. I cryed for him. Not ever knowing him. I pray for his family that they feel peace for him now. I also hope he found God before he passed. I will pray for him and his family. Life is so short. I hope he is living a happy life now.

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sunlover_7108176 said on March 21, 2010 at 9:17 PM

My dad supported the law but declined too fast for it to be necessary. I'm glad he didn't linger and suffer any longer than necessary.

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vickied said on March 21, 2010 at 9:11 PM

In this story.. they weren't reporting, they were "journaling" and being journalists for this man who needed to that right to die with dignity! Going public should NOT have stopped him from getting his right! Thank you to the journalists who wrote this story and follow him and documented this ordeal. I do not read "news" for entertainment. I read the news to learn what is going on in our cities, communities, our state as well as our country and around the world. This was not a "paparazzi" type story. This is real life and happening in our state. While not everyone agrees with the decisions each one of us makes, we all need to be respectful that there ARE those out there who do make their own decisions and lead their own lives. I certainly am tired of trying to live my own life to suit the "accomodations" of someone else just because it's either politically correct or religiously correct!

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jujumine said on March 21, 2010 at 8:52 PM

I used to be a Labor & Delivery nurse... new parents would come in with a "birth plan".........if we can have a birth plan, why can;t we have a "death plan"' and keep the church out of it............... there are too many people on this planet.....if someone ( an adult) wishes to die,,,that;s their business.........................

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maryjen said on March 21, 2010 at 8:43 PM

until the next time we shall meet up my friend. We love you and miss you so much. i feel bad for the people who left such bad comments. it's obvious they didn't have the pleasure of knowing you. You are inspiring, loving,and one of the most honest people i've ever met. Tory you are truely beautiful and I'm sorry for the lost time between us. I miss your scrumpious cooking and your wise and comforting ideas and loving opinions. I thank you for being such a wonderful part of our lives and our family. thank you to your wonderful 20 year friendship with my aunt and by doing so becoming a part of our family. The world is a better place because of your time shared here. love ya and will never forget ya. only goodbye for now

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carlconstantine said on March 21, 2010 at 8:34 PM

He's with God now? My question is: Did he believe in God while he was still alive? That's the big question for me. A lot of people die and when they are gone, everybody says "he's with God now." But in while they were alive the didn't even believe in GOD... I've never seen a person that had a firm belief in God that wanted a doctor to assist them in death. Five people from my church died within the past 12 months and no of them wanted to die, even the ones that had advanced stages of cancer. Also, let it be noted that none of them complained.

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oldlady01 said on March 21, 2010 at 8:20 PM

Bless all involved..Tory, His Mother, and dear Friend. I am wondering how the Doctors that denied Tory his medicine to end his life would feel if it were one of their family or themselves! We, the citizens of the state of Washington, passed the law so that Tory and others could die with dignity..please remember that! BTW, who cares how Tory got AIDS..was that a homophobic remark or just one directed at someone who did drugs, or got it from a medical procedure? He obviously was a good emplyee that spurred his employer on to continue his insurance coverage (bless them). So what is the problem?? Does Tory deserve less love and concern depending on how he contacted AIDS? A very Christian attitude, huh.

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aziza said on March 21, 2010 at 7:56 PM

java? Have you actually watched someone die of cancer? Its a slow, agonizing, brutal, horrific and painful death. I wouldn't wish it upon anybody. How about the next time you go to the dentist or for a surgery you opt out of anesthesia and feel the dignity in that!

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topseattleguy said on March 21, 2010 at 7:20 PM

Rest well, Troy!

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shadowe said on March 21, 2010 at 6:52 PM

Our heartfelt condolences go out to Tory's family and friends. To Seattle Cancer Center doctors...SHAME ON YOU! People with diseases that cannot be cured and are fatal such as Tory, should have the backing of their trusted physicians to help them pass over when they are ready. Tory was brave to allow this story to be shared. I hope that more people can understand and be more compassionate about Death With Dignity actions in the future. I would have saved my best friend his last agonized months, as he told me many times, if he could end it he would. Sadly this legislation was not around back then. I am thankful that it is available now for those that CHOOSE to use it, as a means of ending their lives and not having to live through the sometimes devastatingly painful last days/weeks/months of terminal illness. To the people who posted such ugly and unfeeling comments, Grow The Hell Up!

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lifeinamerica said on March 21, 2010 at 6:03 PM

Thankful he naturally died.... he went in Gods time.... not a minute sooner!

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factoid said on March 21, 2010 at 5:27 PM

I have followed this story from the beginning and commend Tory for going public. Thank you to KING5 for taking on this story, unlike the cowardly doctors that denied him his right to die under the law. It does reaffirm that individual Human nature is good, where as institutional decision making seems to lack compassion, as was evident with his cable and internet being cut off. Sadly even the law that was meant to help him die with dignity was too complex and full of loopholes to enable him to do so. Thank you KING5 and my heartfelt condolences to Tory's family and friends. May Tory finally Rest In Peace with dignity.

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leatherlady said on March 21, 2010 at 4:41 PM

Thank you God for finally relieving Tory of all his pain & suffering. God bless his soul & comfort his family & friends. I learned to spell friend by being told FRI- END. friEND to the END. I am so glad Tory had family & friends through the END. I know from experience, most of us with chronic pain have no friends or family. SHAME ON SCCA I pray I die before I ever think of asking you for any help to suffer to my death as Tory did, I think that is criminal what you put Tory & his family & friends through. I think Tory was a very brave person opening himself up & ending up being screwed over for opening up about his Journey. I am grateful that we can all learn from his pain & suffering. Tory left us a wonderful gift to learn from. Never trust those Governing our lives & deaths! I think this story is one of the very BEST king5NEWS has ever done! Thank you, Allen & crew!

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tooldtocare said on March 21, 2010 at 4:34 PM

Rest now Tory. I am ashamed of the posters below who are mean and have no sense of respect. I was raised that taking your own life was wrong, but I do not know how I would feel in his shoes. I wil not judge what I do not know about. May your family know you finally have the peace you want. God Bless you Tory, and thank you for sharing.

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arebz said on March 21, 2010 at 4:31 PM

So just how did he contract HIV?

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alsatia527659207 said on March 21, 2010 at 4:30 PM

Good bye my friend. I think of every day and always will. Rusty Nails on me! Charlie

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bluedamzel406743 said on March 21, 2010 at 3:35 PM

Commentist...SHAME on you! King 5 reporters...don't beat yourself up over this..Tory wanted you to do this...

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flowers4u said on March 21, 2010 at 3:25 PM

To Tory's mom and friend - I am sorry for your loss. I have watched a dear friend die of AIDS, and it is not pretty and very painful. What is so sad here is that Tory also had cancer, and that compounds the situation. There are not enough words to describe how hard it is to watch someone die who is in pain, for I have watched both my parents do so. I am also sorry that the new law did not help Tory as it should have. I know Tory is in the Lord's hands now, free of pain and with all the angels. God bless Tory for having the courage and fortitude to share his journey with all. This was not an easy decision to make, but , hopefully it has helped just one person in some small way. That in itself makes Tory a very special gift to all who have read about his journey. God be with you at this very difficult time.

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lmariec said on March 21, 2010 at 3:17 PM

Choosing to die, when death is inescapable, is not giving up, it is choosing how one wishes to die. Is it so wrong to wish to die on one's own terms? It seems to me that choosing to die in one's own way is way of tweaking one's nose at death at the last moment. I lost two in-laws to cancer and their death, though relieved by pain killers as much as possible, was not comfortable in the least. The whole process should be easier to follow and even with the new law it apparently is still very difficult. To the person who thinks that reporting on this is a bleeding heart agenda, perhaps you have yet to lose loved ones. Reporting on this is not entertainment, unless you happen to believe the subject is entertaining. I doubt the reporters feel the same way.

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commentist said on March 21, 2010 at 2:47 PM

KIng5 Pushing thr BLEEDING HEART AGENDA ha ha ha ha ha ha Entertainment! The NEW news!

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javajoe said on March 21, 2010 at 2:40 PM

Anyone can give-up. There's no dignity in that.

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quadmommy said on March 21, 2010 at 2:36 PM

I am so sorry about Tory. I've been following his story here on King5 and had hoped he was able to fufill his last dying wish. It's a shame the process was so difficult. Allowing us, the public to learn shouldn't have hindered anything. This is a very personal decision and sharing this with us was a good thing. I am glad that his suffering in now over and he can be at peace. God bless his mother and friend.

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yogibear said on March 21, 2010 at 2:29 PM

I am glad he is in heaven with God now. He is safe and out of pain.

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onlyinseattle said on March 21, 2010 at 2:17 PM

Laws are not good when they can't be enforced! This was a human who had the right to choose not by only his morals but by law. Washington State let him down. Our law makers let him down. He died in pain. God rest your soul Tory. You are now in Gods loving arms in peace. Finally..

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